It's more than just knowing what to do and when to do it...discernment is the ability to judge well. I find that my capacity to judge is rarely impaired, but the ability to judge WELL is in fact a gift and skill that needs to continuously be refined and developed.
The trouble with discernment is that it is decisive...but we are not. When I say "trouble" what I really mean is..real discernment pushes us to call a spade, take action and stand firm. I know lots of people that are extremely discerning, unfortunately, I know more people that are not...at all. So rather than offer some characteristics of discernment, here are some to look for when discernment may be lacking;
1. Impulsive - It's often said: "First out best out" or "Go with your Gut." While these are true in the right contexts, they are not characteristics to rely on when looking for discerning people. It's critical to differentiate being decisive with acting with unnecessary haste. When someone is decisive, they take in the context, variables and make a tactical and calculated decision without delay...this does not mean that decisiveness is reactionary or implusive, but rather is timely and firm in the decision...confident that all angles (or at least most) have been examined and flushed out.
2. Self-Seeking - Everyone is self-seeking at times. It's when our decision-making and advice is driven by motives that are self-seeking. It's easy to recommend a solution to someone that pays you their dollar or allows you to take a step up the ladder...but what about when what's best for the person or situation involves some self-sacrifice? Discernment is honest, self-examining and conscience of its surroundings. If you tell the truth all the time, you never need to remember what you said.
3. Scattered and/or Unclear - Be concise. As I reflect on situations and people that I've interacted with that lack discernment, this is a pervasive truth. Hectic and rash actions that drive vain and implusive decisions. Discernment is calm, collected and orderly. The person that panics and loses control rarely makes the best decision. Self-control and clarity of thought propel discernment and act as a guard rail down the path of decision-making.
Discernment at its core is more about wisdom than anything else. By surrounding yourself with trustworthy and competent individuals, you create an environment for discernment to develop.